What is Pup play to me?

Sometimes people have their WTF moments. They are presented with something that they just don’t understand and can’t comprehend in their own mind what that is all about. But, when you see something you don’t understand, you try to explain it to yourself using the context of things you have already learned in your life. This can be both a good and bad thing for pup play.

If you came to this page looking for a definition for Pup Play, then you may be a little disappointed, you wont find one here but you will find my interpretation.

For some of us we aren’t trying to pretend that we are actual canine animals. However, its hot as fuck to be down in a doggy position (something done for years by male/female partners, but they certainly don’t appreciate being called a bitch!) and to take on my certain characteristics of a pup for submission, loving to be ready to worship feet/socks/sneax & scent, ready to suck dick, displaying my ass (arguably my best feature) on display for use or plugged for pleasure.

It can be seen as being degraded down to a basic animal or pet and to get time spent like this. Is it realistic to be like this 24/7? Am I being taken care of, or am I just being used? These are just a couple of questions that you need to address too.

It was necessary to present the ass in the air when feeding from his bowl….

The reason that I got into pup play at first, was down to my large kink and fetish for sweaty socks and trainers. After meeting someone also into this at a kink event several years ago and having had a playful session wrestling brand new blue Nasty Pig socks out of his mouth that I had worn for several days, i was amazed at how playful, light-hearted, loving and horny the session was in comparison to other sub/dom sexual sessions I’d encountered to date. They were all serious and do this, do that, shut up commands. It made me remember that sex should be fun, make you happy, and most of all make me want to howl about its merits. I’ll create a blog post about that pup that changed my life some other time.

I am more submissive sexually. However, I can be dominant when a sub needs to be coached, needs to experience something good and needs a genuine handler, someone who gets it, to help them discover kink through pup play. I get off on seeing someone else happy during a sexual encounter, and if they are unhappy then I don’t get a buzz. So, I can be a dom top handler, a sub btm pup or anywhere inbetween.

You only combat prejudice and bullying, with education and exposure. So, telling people why I do the things I do should only have a positive impact on people’s perceptions and hopefully allow them to have their moment of learning something new, that may or may not give them an experience like the one I had back then.

What you do with the knowledge and how you implement it, is your own personal journey and the truth is, just like any other kink, its completely nonbinary. You can do with it, whatever you want, and pick and choose what bits suits you. It certainly has its own “character” within the gay scene, but that is represented by the hoods people wear and how they can stand out as kinksters within a gay community that puts kinksters into either a rubber or a leather box. Look at the pride march in manchester and the kinksters are firmly in their section.

Id love a day when a rubber wearing pup can be in the parade section of a corporately sponsored company paying for their employees to all march and accepting that George from accounts is sexually a rubber gimp, whilst Mavis from accounts is a dominatrix and David her boyfriend wears nappies and gets a lot sexually from being regressed to adolescence…. that day is long long way away

You should get to know the person or pup and not make too many assumptions until you do. I’ve heard of a lot of people in the scene call the pup community annoying, but its mainly down to fact they’ve found a lot of fun and when you see that “messing around” it doesn’t fit AT ALL with the other communities of rubber and leather which everyone thinks has an unwritten rulebook out there somewhere that the ultimate leather master keeps.

My first wearing of a pup hood was exciting and changed my relationship with sex and kink. Id worn a gimp hood before but as a slave sex was not interactive and I was merely there to take orders. I have always been a shy person when it comes to talking about sex. I grew up in a world where saying “im gay” would have been a career ending event, and i was even afraid to come out to my own family until the age of 28. I went to an all-boys school where Section 28 forbid teachers to talk about homosexuality, but I read the same newspapers covering this law and then thought it was just wrong to be gay or educated on how to be gay. All the gay people in the press and media were camp and I wasn’t that, but if you weren’t camp then there were no other gays, they must all be in the closet. When you are attracted to guys, their looks, their masculinity, their smell and even taste, no-one gives you a manual on what to do.

Straight away I’m attracted to this image because the guy is masculine and hairy, presenting socks that show his smell clearly adorned on them.

Before I found the pup scene, I had already explored the gay skinhead scene, rubber and leather scenes of Manchester. At first, they frightened the life out of me. But when I went out on a kink night, wearing my rubber pup hood, knowing that it was unrecognisable I just felt different, weird but more like me. There was this sudden confidence inside me because a massive fear of “being found out” and anxiety that I would be discovered as kinky was not a problem anymore. I still had my professional life, my family, but with this on I could be more myself than ever but explore what I actually desired. My anxiety dropped. Suddenly a world where I could explore things my own inhibitions would never let me as myself, seemed less daunting. This even led me, walking in a Manchester pride event on a collar and lead as a pup and enjoying the reaction from the crowd. I’ve never walked a pride without a hood though, which is something I hope to change.

I’m a switch sexually. And I’m pretty non-binary about the sex I have. I’ve had great dom-top sessions, and great sub-btm sessions, and just great vanilla kissing snogging rolling around sex. Ive had sex with females before I realised I just fancy men more. I even have a newfound sexual urge for FTM that I discovered browsing porn only 2 years ago. I’ve had great sex that contained no anal, no cock, even no touching. The gay-scene tries to put labels and boxes on people to explain their wants and needs, but it doesn’t really cope with changing non-binary based desires and feelings, I like Mars bars, but I can’t eat them all the time, so being asked on social networks if I’m 60% Active and 40% passive sounds ridiculous to me, to try and explain who I am, as I will always be different things to different people.

Being down worshipping and sniffing feet, the smell immediately gets me horny, as a big guy (6’1, 100kg) I dont look dominant or threatening

That’s because my sex experiences are very much an exploration of the things that turn me on and get me excited as fuck. You could call me greedy, as I like to try everything (and of course there are things I don’t) but I do think I’m a good mentor, and I will definitely post up more entries here around them so that people can review. Feedback is always good!

I don’t need my hood to feel like Zalo, I AM Zalo. The hood is just a tool I use when I need it. It re-invigorated my own desires to have playful, loving, intimate sex. I love smelling, sniffing, masculine scent. I love tasting sweaty guys all over. I love snogging passionately, being submissive and being dominant and boisterous at times. I love being kinky and sleazy with someone. I expect someone to treat me like I am worth something and not an object, I’m not into pain. It provides me with some discretion that shields me from my sex life overflowing into my professional life. I’m entitled to have both, in a world where there is still massive stigma and predujice to not only gay people but also to kinky people. I’m entitled to tap into the new things I’ve discovered about myself that I actually enjoy a level or voyeurism, and being on display. It’s really helped me appreciate my body more, and realise not everything is for everyone but there are lots of people who don’t just like muscled six pack masculine guys. I take pride in my twitter feed covering the last 9 years of my journey to get here,

This new Innerpup site & blog is an extension to this, that has started on my new journey…. things are changing

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